Living the non-fitness lifestyle can be a game changer for many people.
And using the word “game changer” isn’t a word I use lightly especially in this industry but I’m comfortable with it I’m not referring to any specific workout program, diet, or supplement.
It’s a massive shift in the way most people look at the traditional approach to fitness and the hardcore “fitness lifestyle.”
And if you give it a chance and truly embrace it, it might just change your life.
So here are the 9 habits of living the non-fitness lifestyle.
Note: Be sure to check out #9.
9 habits of living the non-fitness lifestyle
#1 – There’s more to training than heavy weights
Do you even lift, bro?
Um, no not really.
At least not probably in the way you think.
Lifting weights has never been more popular than it is today.
The popularity of weight training, squatting, bench pressing, hitting PRs is at an all time high and is not going to slow down any time in the near future.
And I’m not saying lifting isn’t cool to just be a non-conformist nor am I saying that this is a bad thing.
Instead I just want to tell you that there’s life outside the gym.
A lot of people have developed this tunnel vision view of what exercise and training is.
There is, believe it or not, such a thing as exercise outside of deadlifts and squats.
Yes, people actually do things like play basketball, go rock climbing, hike, swim, and practice martial arts and don’t live in the gym 24/7.
Shocking, I know.
Kidding aside, I feel a lot of guys have developed this belief that if you don’t lifting heavy weights, you’re not actually working out.
But nothing could be further from the truth.
If you’re going to live by non-fitness lifestyle philosophies, you need to start expanding your idea of what exercise truly is.
Exercise isn’t and shouldn’t just be confined to the gym.
#2 – Stop striving for perfection
So you went out, ate a dozen tacos with extra cheese, did one too many shots of cheap tequila, and threw up in the alleyway dumpster where you also met a local priest doing coke off the back of a $20/hour hooker.
Most guys living the traditional fitness lifestyle would be beating themselves up the morning, extending their workout by 30 minutes and adding an extra hour of cardio.
Living the non-fitness lifestyle means you just laugh this shit off.
There’s no such thing as perfection.
Do you really think extending your workout the morning after a night of debauchery is really going to fix much?
We’re all human. We make mistakes.
As long as this isn’t a daily occurrence, stop worrying so much.
Have some fun and just laugh it off.
#3 – Don’t tie your self-worth to your physical appearance
I’ve been training 3 years….
I built a solid 30+ pounds of lean muscle…
I can do chin ups with 135+ pounds strapped to waist…
I can do dips with 160+ pounds strapped to waist…
I can incline bench press 250 pounds…
My abs have never been more defined…
Why am I still miserable?
This was exactly how I felt a few years ago.
And it was because I tied my physical appearance to my self-worth.
If I saw a guy who had slightly bigger arms than me or could bench press more than me, I automatically got pissed and depressed.
Today I truly don’t give a crap.
Last week I wrote an article Will Building Your Dream Body Make You Miserable?
This is exactly what will happen to you when you tie your self-worth to your looks.
Are there guys who are stronger than me and have better physiques?
Fuck yes there are.
But I don’t spend my days dwelling over why I don’t look like them.
It just doesn’t even register in my brain anymore.
If someone truly judges me because I have small arms or whatever, I know it’s that person who’s the real pussy and has big insecurities with his body.
This is one of the most important habits of living the non-fitness lifestyle.
You can get all the workout and diet stuff down like a clockwork but if all you care about are “numbers” and comparing yourself to others, you’re fucked.
#4 -Be flexible with your nutrition (even MORE flexible than the “if it fits your macros” guys)
Obviously nutrition plays a massive role when it comes to fitness but you shouldn’t be obsessed with it.
Eating 6x per day out of tupperware containers….
Carrying around gallon jugs of water…
Spending 1-2 hours per day playing around in apps like Myfitnesspal to track your macros….
This is exhausting.
As much as people like to tout the “flexibility” or nutrition strategies like IIFYM (if it fits your macros), it still requires a ton of work and isn’t nearly as flexible as some would like to believe.
Since when did having to hit 180 grams protein, 300 grams carbs, and 60 grams fats every single day become the definition of flexible.
I hate being told I can’t eat a cookie because I “ran out of carbs” for the day.
C’mon man…that’s not cool.
That’s why with the non-fitness lifestyle I like to teach something called Macro FLEX Tracking (which I get into a lot more details in Superhero X12) that simply tells you to track overall calories and protein while eyeballing carbs and fats.
And even when tracking cals and protein, there’s no need to be obsessed with it, just try to average out around your target by weeks end.
This reduces dieting stress by 97.32% (scientific fact) and just makes life much more enjoyable.
#5 – Just enjoy eating
I’m not saying you should eat nothing but doughnuts and drink Mountain Dew all day long because you enjoy it.
The majority of what you eat should still be whole, healthy, and nutritious foods.
What I’m trying to say is if you go to your grandma’s house and she offers you some fresh baked cookies but you say no because it’s not “clean…”
You deserve to get kicked in the balls.
Getting ripped and looking good naked is cool and all but if you don’t find any other hobbies outside of the gym, shit’s gonna hit the fan.
Soon, every waking moment of your life will be consumed with thoughts of training, dieting, and if you remembered to flex in the last 30 minutes.
Or even worse…you start thinking about other dudes training, dieting, and flexing.
I have spent more hours than I’d like to admit watching other half naked guys on Youtube eat and flex.
So find a damn hobby outside lifting and thinking/watching others lift.
Read a fucking book, learn Parkour, learn knife throwing, collect butterflies, just do something productive that doesn’t involve traditional fitness stuff.
#7 – Find your WHY behind every single thing you do
Everything we do has a reason behind it.
Younger guys lift weights because they want to impress girls.
Older guys lift weights because they want to stay healthy.
Of course these are generalized assumptions, but the point is, everything has a big WHY behind it.
You need to find your big WHY for everything you do.
The big WHY for people living the traditional fitness lifestyle is usually some narcissistic reason:
- “I want to get more girls.”
- “I want to make my ex jealous.”
- “I want to become rich and famous.”
However, the big WHY for those living the non-fitness lifestyle is typically much more intrinsic (doing it for yourself, not others):
- “It makes me happy.”
- “I love the challenge.”
- “I love the journey and the climb of constantly improving.”
Intrinsic motivation will ALWAYS crush extrinsic motivation. Every time.
So find your inner motivation, because without it, you likely won’t last long in this game.
I cover finding your WHY and intrinsic motivation in a lot more detail in Superhero X12.
#8 – Hang out with others who share your same beliefs
They say you are the 5 people you hang out with the most.
So if you start hanging out with a bunch of hardcore bodybuilders then you’re inevitably going to start acting and living a life like them.
But if you start hanging with guys who share similar, more relaxed beliefs when it comes to training, nutrition, and life…
Then you’ll have a much more likely chance of being able to actually live the non-fitness lifestyle.
#9 – Don’t label yourself and others
When you walk into a grocery store, what do you see?
You see labels.
Everything is neatly organized by sections and aisles.
Bread, cereal, fresh produce, meat, seafood, household items, pharmacy, etc…
If you’re a box of Cinnamon Toast Crunch, then you sure as hell shouldn’t be in the hot sauce aisle of the store.
As a grocery store, this is fine.
We need these labels to navigate and organize the wide variety of items available.
The problem is that the entire fitness industry and fitness culture has essentially become one massive grocery store.
We have the aisles:
- Aisle 1 – Bodybuilders (self centered, vain, only cares about their looks, thinks they’re superior to everyone)
- Aisle 2 – Powerlifters (super strong, fat, doesn’t care about their health and only cares for getting stronger)
- Aisle 3 – Crossfitters (tells everyone they do crossfit, does paleo)
- Aisle 4 – Runners (never lifts weights, weak, has no muscle)
- Aisle 5 – MMA guys (only wears TapouT shirts, probably bald, has tattoos, wants to fight everyone)
- Aisle 6 – Paleo (does crossfit)
- Aisle 7 – Yogi (hipster, eats hummus and wheat grass all day)
- Aisle 8 – IIFYM dudes (looks down on every other diet in existence)
I could go on and on.
For example, let’s take a closer look at bodybuilders.
Just because someone likes to lift weights and has a lean and muscular build, we shouldn’t automatically label them as a bodybuilder.
We shouldn’t assume they have no life and spends 6 days per week going #beastmode at the gym.
We shouldn’t assume that all they eat is brown rice and chicken breasts 6 times per day, every day.
We shouldn’t assume that they’re selfish, vain, and only care about their looks.
Yet these are all common assumptions people make.
Fitness has become very black & white.
But in reality, it’s incredibly grey.
And you should never make assumptions in the grey area.
Don’t act like you know someone’s entire life story just because they follow a specific workout or diet.
You are not a box of Cinnamon Toast Crunch, so stop treating others like one.
And fuck, this shouldn’t even be a non-fitness lifestyle habit.
It should be a “how to be a better human being” habit.
Even if you are a self-proclaimed bodybuilder, MMA guy, or yogi…don’t limit yourself inside that box.
If you love doing bodybuilder type workouts, don’t think that you’re “too good” to try something like yoga or even go run a mile.
Try something new, expand your mind, your physical capabilities, and stop confining your life to this bullshit self-imposed label that you or someone else put on you.
I could go on and on about the topic of “labels” but I’ll save that for another post.
Which non-fitness habit do you guys think is the most important? Let me know in the comments below.